GIVING SELF LOVE USING YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE.

Whenever we  hear of the love languages it's always about partnership compatability or how we can make our partner feel good using their love languages.

I want you to remind yourself that you also should give the love you would give to others back to yourself.

If you are unsure about what your love language is then click the link to a quiz where you can find out what it is.

 If your love language is:

 Acts of Service: You like to do something nice for another person or you like when a person does something nice for you. For example, if you needed to go somewhere far and were thinking of using public transport, the person who embodies acts of service would offer to drive you instead. 

So how do you give this back to yourself? You could nurture yourself by making your favourite food and treat yourself to something you haven't had in a while or finish that project that you said you were going to do and you never got round to it. This particular love language can be quite physically draining but you have to think of how good the results will make you feel.

Words of Affirmation: You like to give compliments to people and lift them up or you like to recieve positive and uplifiting comments from people. For example if you were to make someone a coffee with all the top quality ingredients like whipped cream etc. You would expect a thank you with an added "yummy" and "wow I've never tasted anything like this before". It's a bit dramatic, but for you words mean a lot. 

You implement words of affirmation by doing guided meditations that uplift and make you feel encouraged for the day ahead or before you go to sleep and also you could start reciting your own words of affirmation which could help boost you in positive ways, you could try looking some up online if you struggle with what to say to yourself.

Gift Giving: You like the fact that someone thought of you enough to get you something that you like, or you like to gift other people. Gift giving doesn't have to be super expensive or luxurious, it can be as simple as going to the store and seeing a drink that somebody else likes and then buying it for them because you know how much they like it.

Giving gifts back to you is as simple as gifting yourself with time, allow yourself to have longer breaks and enjoy leisure time for yourself that could be in the form of a vacation, and another way is to splurge on something that you really really want, possibly a thing that you have wanted for a very long time. Don't break then bank but allow yourself to splurge just this once.

 

Physical Touch: You like being all touchy feely with your loved ones this includes hugs, massages and snuggles or you like when someone does this to you and it feels very natural and not forced. For example if you're walking side by side with your partner, they instinctively want to hold your hand and you let them and it feels nice.

One of the things you can do for yourself is to give yourself a massage, if it is in a hard place to reach then book a massage, and also another thing you can do is to take a bath or to have a shower, water is very soothing for the physical touch person, you might even want to go to the sea and just feel the gentle bobbing of the waves.

Quality Time: You just want to be near the person you really like and it doesn't really matter what you do you just want them near and vice versa. For example, you could be on your phone whilst your partner watches TV but you're both next to each other and neither of you will move and neither or you will do what the other one is doing but it doesn't matter because they are there, next to you.

Spending quality time alone with yourself is actually such a great thing to do regardless, I think it's time you went and did what you would normally do with a person alone. Maybe you really want to see that movie, or have a picnic in the park, just do it and do it alone. Another thing you can do is take regular breaks, don't allow yourself to waste all of your day working, figure out how you can schedule in a break. 

 

Giving yourself love back using your love languages is not so that you stop giving love to others, but to remind yourself that sometimes the best person to comfort you is actually you. So, don't forget to show up for yourself.

 

Tisha x